had a nice chat with someone yesterday.. helped me take my mind off many things troubling me. XD
found out that its actually very tough to be very chio. from a reliable source, she tells me that if you are preety, and you also have a good heart, people will often think you have a motive in treating other people so well. this point is right. i thought she was like that when i first met her too. therefore, the most important thing i feel is about the person's character.
yes, it is true that when you look at a person, the first thing you see is the physical appearance, which in other words, their looks. they at least have to look presentable to you before you consider going over and saying hello right? but, in the long run, i think in order to become good friends with that person, you have to know that person well. and that refers to his/her character.
many times we judge a person by his looks. that is biased, as people often have different judgements towards looks. then, do you trust other people's evaluation of the person's looks or do you trust yourself? for these two outcomes may seem very different indeed. and how do we decide whether that person looks good? is there a criteria? yes i suppose there is, but it differs with each and everyone of us. isnt that true?
knowing that person well means you have a good grasp of their character and you know fully well why they are doing this or that. meanwhile, only judging the person by their looks wont ever bring your ties closer.
does it mean that being prettier you are more flirtatious? in some cases it is, but mostly, they are not. and does it mean that if you are not handsome, you wont have many friends? that is a wrong perception too.
being more good-looking than other people has a price to pay too. yes you will indeed be more popular, but if your character is awful, do you think your friends will still stay with you? being better-looking, people will have you depicted as a certain kind or type. then do you have to live up to that reputation? i wonder. it must be very hard to live in the lives or the good-looking, and i think they have more problems affecting them than they seem to portray and let on.
looks and character are two sides on e see-saw. both have to be equally balanced to obtain a healthy image of oneself, and of how others see you. looks are borne natually. some people have it, and some not as much. but character can be nurtured. through years of learning by oneself and picking yourself up from mistakes and, of course changing for the better. so which will you choose?
its in your hands.i only know of few people who look good, and have a good charcter too. so dont be in a hurry to just judge people by how they look. it wont hurt to take a while to know them too. =)